I’ve been working with clients for more than 15 years. What I treasure most about what I do is the connection that evolves between my clients and I that opens the door to the possibility for true healing. This is so important in the work I do with couples where one or both partners have ADHD. Knowing that they are sharing with someone who has been where they are, and understands their particular challenges, seems to make a big difference.
My personal experience with ADHD
A few years ago, through a series of surprising events, I discovered that I’ve been living my life with ADHD. The discovery occurred when I was a co-trainer at the University of Santa Monica (USM), where I was on faculty. My co-trainer would interrupt me by whispering in my ear about something I’d forgotten, (a common ADHD symptom). I’d lose my place and get flustered and unfocused, and have a difficult time returning to where I’d left off (another common ADHD phenomenon). This circumstance re-occurred enough times that I began to feel really uncomfortable.
My husband, Steve, had been diagnosed with ADHD the prior year, and suddenly, the light bulb went on. After my humiliating experiences at USM, I came to realize that I, too, was showing signs of the Inattentive form of ADHD. What a shock! And a revelation. After the shock wore off, and the diagnosis was confirmed, it was a great relief. I finally understood so many things about what I’d been through as a young person in school, with reading comprehension issues, test taking challenges, etc. I now had an answer to what had felt like my intelligence “problem” all my life. And it had nothing to do with my intelligence. Phew!
In addition to treating my ADHD , I’ve been married for over 10 years to a man with ADHD. You might consider this a double whammy with both of us having ADHD. We’ve certainly had to work diligently to overcome some of the potholes that being a double ADHD couple can create. The advantage of having these experiences is in helping me understand my clients so much better.
My background includes:
- A license in Marriage and Family therapy (LMFT).
- A degree in Counseling Psychology from the University of Santa Monica.
- The experience of being on faculty at USM.
- Co-authorship of a book with Melissa Orlov called, The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD.
- I bring this background to our practice, and our work with you.
We are excited to get to know you.
Nancie has spoken at OC CHADD on ADHD and Relationships
Nancie has been featured on KUCI radio and the very popular Totally ADD website on Couples Thriving with ADHD. She has been a featured blogger for Melissa Orlov on adhdmarriage.com and has been a member of the the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) since 1999. Nancie holds private sessions in her office in Orange County, CA. In addition, she also holds marriage consulting sessions regularly by phone and Skype, both nationally and internationally with her husband Steve.