”READY, FIRE, AIM”
This is a common way for Impulsive ADHDers to respond to a lot of situations. What this means is jumping into action before considering what the outcome will be. Lots of action, not enough thought. This can also be the result of living in the “Now and Not Now” Time zone. “Later,” and consequences of ones actions are not given a lot of thought. This kind of impulsivity can cause a lot of problems in your life, if you have this type of ADHD.
You might be apt to say something to someone in a moment of impulse that they find very hurtful, like, “Congratulations on your pregnancy” and then find out that they’ve just put on a bit of weight recently. Or you might be at work, in a meeting, and your boss is speaking and you jump in and interrupt saying, “Someone keeps parking in my space,” when the context is more along the lines of “We need to get a rush order out today.” In the case of your “not pregnant” friend, you may be able to recover somehow. With your boss, if you interrupt impulsively too often, you could put your job in jeopardy.
The impulsive type of ADHD usually comes along with the hyperactive type. When you were a kid, you probably couldn’t sit in your seat very long in class. As an adult, it still might show up as a need to keep moving, or tapping your feet when you can’t sit still in a meeting. Swinging one leg over the other, or drumming incessantly on a tabletop are other ways of getting all that energy out.
The Inattentive form of ADHD, which is the second type, shows up as an inability to focus on what people are saying without having your mind drift off to what is going on outside the window. Or your mind may wander to some other place entirely. Any other place then where you are. You realize, when you’re in a conversation and your friend stops talking, you don’t remember more than a word or two of what they were saying to you. Or you might be reading a book someone recommended, and you get to the end of a couple of paragraphs, and don’t remember what any of it was about.
The third type of ADHD is the combined type. If you’re one of these folks, it’s hard to focus, to sit still, and to finish a conversation without interrupting, and these are just a few symptoms.
In all of these cases, you can do some things to support yourself:
- If you’re open to it, get on an ADHD medication that works for you. It won’t resolve everything, but certainly can lessen some of the symptoms.
- Exercise regularly to move some of that energy out, as you get some well-needed oxygen to the brain.
- Take Omega 3’s, which are known to help with ADHD symptoms.
- Get plenty of sleep and eat plenty of protein. Both are good for the brain.
And if you do all of these things and still seem to be driving yourself and the people around you crazy, it can be very helpful to hire a coach who can help you develop workarounds and new strategies for many of your symptoms.